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Lesson number 4: Be aware of your anger.

I’ve firstly listed three solutions on how to overcome your anger, but I forgot something very important.

Before you can do anything to overcome it, you have to be aware of anger.
You, of course, can’t overcome any kind of a problem until you understand there is one. You have to understand that you are angry and that anger is pushing you away from people and great oportunities. Once you open your eyes, you are able to go through it.

If you are really angry, then your anger might bother your friends and people who spend a lot of time around you. They will be first ones to point out that you might have a problem.

Some of them will do it nicely, but most of them won’t. They’ll probably somehow end up provoking you. You’ll find yourself thinking they are either incredibly wrong or there truly is something wrong with you. If your confidence is low as mine is, then you’ll end up questioning everything you say and everything you do. That’s how anxiety is born. You won’t feel safe saying and doing things before overthinking them. You’ll end up scheduling and planning your whole life. Just because a “friend” pointed a mistake of yours.

We’re here to avoid anxiety and self esteem problems. If you are angry, you have to build a safe place around you. When people judge you and comment on your anger, you have to be aware of yourself. Even if you have a problem, you shouldn’t let anybody control your life. Learn to accept their criticism and then work on your problem.

When somebody points out your issue with anger, don’t get upset. Don’t strike back and start listing their mistakes. Most people will point out your temper just because they want to help you. Most of them.
But even if people want to put you down with their comments, you should never get down on their level.

Accept their comment, breathe in and figure out whether they are right or wrong. If they are right, you know you have to proceed steps toward getting rid of your anger.

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