This is one of those topics that can be extremely delicate, because you need to talk about it to people who are opened to your thoughts without expecting the worst as soon as they hear about it and it’s also one of those feelings that many people get, but don’t talk about, because … It’s as if you are a “horrible” person for thinking something like that. But I’m here to bend the boundaries, so here we go.
It can be hard to be friends with people who are in a relationship … While you are single. There. I said it.
I am not in a relationship and sometimes you can tell, especially when some of my friends meet somebody new. We’re living in one of those times when being in a relationship is extremely important to young adults. Some young girls search for … Guidance, to say the least. And they are willing to be in any kind of a relationship with anyone, because it feels to them like that is going to prove their worth.
OF COURSE! Not all of young girls think this way. Some of my friends are in a really beautiful and respectful relationship for years and I think none of them forced it, it just happened. However, today I am focusing on the people that … Have to force relationships, because they feel empty without them, what so ever.
The one problem that I have with some of my friends being in a relationship isn’t the fact that they are in love and I would be “bitter”. Not at all. I actually love seeing people being happy in a relationship and I think that, yeah, love is a great thing when we treat it that way. So … It’s not that. It’s the fact that TO SOME … Everything in their life revolves about being in a relationship. Let me elaborate.
It bothers me when I have to listen to a friend talking about a new boy in her life every … Month. And it bothers me that every boy is “the one”. Every boy deserves her unconditional love, time and energy … Ah, alright. I understand that when you meet somebody new, it’s fresh and exciting and … Expectations and wishes are booming out of you. Of course.
Yet … The world doesn’t revolve around that. Can you believe it? It’s hard to be friends with somebody who THINKS that her world should revolve around one thing … That guy. He is everything she ever wished for. He was a stranger three weeks ago, by the way, but he must be the one.
I think if somebody asked me whether I believe in faith and/or in love at first sight, I might even say yes. Why not.
However … Being 18 years old, I personally don’t give out chances so quickly. I do give a benefit of a doubt, but the independant person that I am, I don’t fall head over heels. I wouldn’t leave every friend behind for a boy. I wouldn’t leave friends behind for anybody in my life, actually. So, while relationships are exciting and everything, they shouldn’t be (to be dramatic) the reason for your existance.
You are worth a lot. With that boy or without him. Don’t be “his girl”, be you. LET yourself be you. Or suddenly you’ll find yourself being left with no friends and a guy that might not care about you that much. Have a healthy relationship with respect and compromises that won’t make you be THAT person who is hard to be around, because she can’t talk about anything, but that specific one topic.
Have I included the point here? I sure hope I have, because the thoughts get messy quickly!