Romance is probably one of the toughest topics that anyone can talk about, whether you’re male or female. It’s just complicated and hard to understand or explain. That’s why I have never gave too much thought to this topic and I’ve never wanted to write about it. Given the fact that I’m not exactly experienced in this era either, I felt like I’d just bullshit my way through something that is unknown to me if I talked about it.
However … As a woman, I feel like romance is always going to be a part of my life, whether I’m in a relationship or not. It’s a stereotype that women are more emotional beings. Of course, every rule has its exceptions and it’s more than obvious that males aren’t “cold-hearted” and “mean” either. They have feelings, just as we do. I have to admit I’ve never had close guy friends, though, so the mindset of a male is still quite a mistery for me. The only reason that I “more or less” understand the mindset of a woman is the fact that I AM a woman. And the fact that I have been surrounded by girl friends my entire life.
It’s a good thing that girls are so chatty and we can learn a lot from each other, isn’t it? The fact that we’re so close to each other can be a fault, as well, especially when we disagree. I mean, don’t get me wrong, it’s normal to have a different opinion that another human being – no matter their sex, age, education … But it’s easier to sympathize with people when you can relate to them. So, when a girl says to me: “I put up with him, because I just don’t want to be alone”, I cannot say I understand her.
Countless of females are in a relationship just for that reason. They put up with lies, unhappiness … With controlling and emotional abuse. Because … “Well, at least I am not alone.” Really? Would you be so miserable if you were alone, for once?
I bet there’s countless of males who go through the same thing, as well. After all, I have to admit that from my own experience, my girl friends were always the ones that were more controlling in the relationship than the guys. Only one boyfriend that I know of was controlling. So, there’s that. On the other hand, I’ve heard a lot of friends complain that their boyfriends aren’t sincere – that they are talking with other girls, they are lying and hiding things from them. While I DO NOT think there’s a legitimate reason for anybody to be controlling (because that just isn’t healthy to me), I can understand the paranoia you build toward someone that lies to you. But! That paranoia exactly is the reason that they shouldn’t be in a relationship with each other, if you ask me.
Hell, what do I know? But I think that a relationship should be based on trust, love, honesty, space … That sounds a lot healthier.
Right, so … I guess women are more emotional human beings, by the stereotype, at least, but that doesn’t mean you have to clinge onto something or someone that doesn’t truly make you feel good. You don’t want to be alone? Alright, surround yourself with friends and family. Go out and try to make some healthy connections. I also encourage you to learn more about yourself and accept yourself, so you stop being so independent on other people … But no matter which way you go, you should definitely stop being in that unhealthy relationship.